The 10 enemies of the couple
For your couple to walk there is no point in looking for miracle recipes. On the other hand, you can avoid certain pitfalls that may in the long run weaken the bonds that unite you. A short guide to bad habits to avoid!
Summary
- TV every night
- No longer dating
- Extra time
- To let go
- Inattention to his partner
- Excessive jealousy
- Abstinence and low libido
- In-laws, sometimes a source of dispute
- The absence of projects with each other
- The lack of communication
If the routine can sometimes be good, because it allows having benchmarks, certain habits are to be avoided or avoided so as not to harm the relationship. For example, if it is good to look at the good movie in love, the television solo, or even duet may ultimately have deleterious effects on the relationship.
TV every night
Television is a kills-love; there is no doubt about it! To proscribe: the dinner in front of the 20 hours. Taking a meal every night in front of the newscast does not make the complicity easier …
And then, by watching the movie and then going to bed, you do not even take the time to talk to each other and to worry about the other person. . Organize thematic evening’s lovers, board games, meals to prepare for two … to change and leave the TV aside, several evenings a week.
No longer dating
Consequence or not of the presence of the TV, you do not go out anymore! And this little restaurant that you liked so much, would it have closed? And the movie nights that went on in passionate debates?
Now you only go out once a month and again only to go to friends or possibly receive. No more couples outings and evenings for lovers! We must find this magic of accomplice’s escapades!
Extra time
Even if it is not always obvious with professional constraints, it is essential not to come back late every night from work. Not only do you have more time for you, but you are tired and irascible, which is not really a sinecure for your partner! If the work has completely invaded your life, it quickly becomes your only topic of conversation …
Stop! Start by going to 35 hours (and not one more)! Try to come home early enough to have some time before dinner … Without taking the time to slouch in front of the TV! And most importantly, forget the work from time to time, to pay more attention to each other.
To let go
It’s not because we are in a relationship and we have known each other for years that we have to let go! Stop wandering around with your hair in battle … and leave your belongings hanging around the house: take care of yourself! Certainly, your spouse loves you as you are, but why not make efforts to show you in the best light?
You show him that you value his presence. In addition, for self – esteem , it is also important to take care of ourselves.
Inattention to his partner
One of the other big enemies of the couple is the lack of attention. And this is not about giving flowers or small gifts, but just looking at it. To notice when he (she) was at the hairdresser’s or bought a new jacket.
Above all, do not hesitate to tell him when you find him (her) elegant or that he (she) impresses you with his pertinent remarks. Because the compliments are always nice … But only if they are thought!
Excessive jealousy
Stop watching him or asking him questions all the time. Because the basis of a couple is mutual trust.
By dint of suspicion, you will eventually tire your partner and push him into the arms of another!
Abstinence and low libido
Sexual life is important in a couple. If it is normal to settle down with time, it should not become the rule!
Because we must keep fantasy and imagination! Book periods of intimacy, vary locations and locations…
In-laws, sometimes a source of dispute
No, of course, not all the in-laws are the ones we love to talk about in the movies. And the agreement is often cordial between the partner and the parents-in-law. But, the whole thing knows not to insist or recognize when the other has a little enough.
Do not impose lunch on Sunday noon each week if you feel he (she) begins to “saturate”. And of course, this rule also applies to your colleagues’ evenings, college alumni meetings…
The absence of projects with each other
To form a couple is not only to face the everyday without thinking about tomorrow. You must build together. Short-term projects (holiday locations, purchase of a car …) to more ambitious projects (children, going to the provinces …). Feel free to think about your future and how you envision it. This will bring you the cohesion and the desire to move forward … together!
The lack of communication
The lack of dialogue is of course harmful for the couple. Admittedly, it often stems from a lack of time or attention related to the various causes already mentioned. However, it is common that the dialogue exists, but that nobody listens to the opinion of the other …
In this case, to you to do together a work of dialogue posed, by making efforts to really seek to understand what the other means. If necessary do not hesitate to get help from a therapist